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Tuesday, 04 August 2009

  • Jon and/or Kate?

    I was taking a lunch break and clicked on a synopsis of the return of Jon & Kate + 8. In that episode, (http://primetime.tv.yahoo.com/) current as of August 4th, 2009, Jon and Kate's body language just doesn't look right.

    Now, I'm not a big fan of the show, nor am I a big-time TV watcher. I didn't really start from the first season, but I watch the show every now and then. I'm curious as to what you guys think... Who is more to blame for Jon and Kate's animosity towards each other?

    I believe that both parties are at fault. Without wanting to spend too much time watching the show, I wanted to google some answers but found none that I wanted... (maybe because I actually used Microsoft Bing)... So I'd like to hear you guys's answer.

Monday, 20 July 2009

  • Sometimes I wish I could just walk away from the troubles... and I never thought church would be a source of stress for me. I always think of it as a destination to relieve and just recharge... away from work... away from people's expectations. I've always been able to hit people's expectations, and it sucks when I disappoint.

    28"Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. 29Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30For my yoke is easy and my burden is light."

    I have always heard pastors preaching how church/fellowship is not the place to do spiritual recharging, but it's in my own devotional, daily life. How true it is... I'm feeling a bit burned out, and a bit discouraged... Chinese people tends to pinpoint what you're doing wrong, but not give encouragements. I remember in LOL, we used to have affirmation nights, where we affirm each other.

    Guess I still don't have all of my life figured out. Maybe that's why God is still God, and we're only His creations... without Him we are nothing. ... Without Him, our paths are so winded.

Thursday, 25 June 2009

  • Introvert vs Extrovert in society

    Let's Define Extrovert: (referenced Encarta)
              o - outgoing person: somebody who is sociable and self-confident
              o - somebody with interest outside self: somebody whose interests are directed outside the self
    Introvert:
              o - reserved person: a shy person who tends not to socialize much
              o - somebody focusing on own self: somebody whose feelings and thoughts are directed inward
              o - turn inward: to direct or turn something inward or in on itself

    Now let's analyze the definitions in a real-world sense, at least from my own skewed, limited pov.

    1) Engineers and technical members:

    At where I work, engineers and others who tend to be the backbone of all development process and problem solving are usually people who work in cubes and offices by themselves, staring at computer screens at least 75% of the time they are in the office. Not much interaction goes on, except technical discussions and occasional chit-chat. When a milestone project is completed, the team gets praised, and individual efforts are recognized. In essence, it is ultimately people managing non-people, and it's what "they are supposed to do" when they bring products line out using their technical know-how. They are the products themselves. Without the engineers, there is no product.

    2) Sales/Managers/Businessmen/HR:

    The other side of the spectrum are people who manage other people, or work with other human beings, relying on social skills, EQ, and other intra-personal skills to get things accomplished to a certain goal. For example, sales people get rewarded based on how many products they sell, and they sell products by being good with people. Most of the glamor news you would hear are from people who are able to drill down large transactions or bring in the big customers, and the person(s) get their names acknowledged, possibly with a huge bonus check. In essence, it is people manipulating other people, and it is "a great opportunity won" when they bring in customers. They are the faces of the company or organization, representing the product in its own respect. Whatever the products are is because of Engineers' work, and not because of the engineers.



    From the comparisons, we can draw some conclusions that may not be accurate. However, there is a difference of how the world functions. For example, people refer to Google as Google, not Anthony Smith of the Software development company. The engineers get lost within the product that they put their hours in. In essence, introverts are somewhat deprived of their existence because they are of "reserved person: a shy person who tends not to socialize much".

    In a world where society is driven by interactions and smarts, there are needs for both Intellects and social people. However, sometimes the introverts have labeled as the "nerds, geeks, weird ones, by himself/herself, off to his/her own world, having trouble socializing", while extroverts are labeled as "cool, hip, amicable, friendly, good with people, fun to talk to, able to sustain a conversation".

    Ultimately, I may be wrong in this, but I feel like the world tends to glorify and praise people who are extroverts because they are able to present themselves much better, that they feed off people's energy and area more visible in this world. Think of a high school yearbook. Who do you remember and who do you notice the most when you're flipping through them? Do you have a better, deeper, more friendly impression of the Class or band president, or do you have a better impression of the president of Math Club? Or when you are hanging out with friends, and you think of inviting people, would you more likely to invite Jack, who is very chill, go with the flow, or would you rather invite Joe the Starcraft king who is rather quiet and unable to make you laugh with his wry sense of humor?

    The question is... what is the advantage of being an Introvert, other than that they make good engineers, writers, and musicians? Are they only acknowledged for their works in society and not themselves? Will they constantly be seen as their profession and what they do? Or will they always be seen and judged as people who are not able to keep up with "the group" or not able to be on the same page as the trend and culture of this world?

    Better yet, what are some disadvantages of being an Extrovert?

Thursday, 18 June 2009

  • Childhood Candies memories

    I'm eating Chocolate at work right now, and Toblerone is one of my favorite since childhood. It's amazing how a taste of something brings back so much pleasant feelings.

    What is your favorite chocolate? Take a poll here. I've attached a flash poll for fun.


        var so = new SWFObject("http://www.addpoll.com/flashPoll.swf", "flashpolls", "300", "300", "9");    so.addVariable("questionId", "34364");    so.write("write_flash");

Tuesday, 09 June 2009

  • Breathe in, Breath out...

    I was in the car driving to work and listening to the Silicon Valley Chinese Radio station. They were talking about how Chinese-background people tend to be the victim of self blame and guilt. We tend to hold things in and not show our inner emotions. Eventually, it explodes or implodes, and things such as teenage suicide or turning to temporary relief (i.e. drugs, alcohol, etc) to try to rid of those imploded emotions.

    All my life, I thought that I have been pretty good and high tolerance for self-reflection. Recently I found myself to be lacking in that area, and previous communications have proved to be invaluable in my life with other people.

    One thing my pastor mentioned that I thought was noteworthy is looking at the Psalms of David, and how real and open his communication with God is. Of course, we always strive for that line of communication, but we always fail. I believe that it's worth trying, however, because the reward is well worth it.

    What is the balance between being smart about what you say vs. letting your emotions run free? What do you think?

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